Uncle exhausted by nephew

Internet defends uncle who refuses to take ‘out of control’ cousin on vacation

Members of a popular internet forum were quick to defend a man explaining why he’s taking two of his three nephews on vacation but the third isn’t.

In a viral reddit Post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/Tobeadessertman (aka the original poster or OP) said he received the three boys to prepare for the trip and told of the events that caused an outside cousin to looked inside.

titled, “[Am I the a**hole] because I took two of my nephews on vacation, but the other didn’t?” after has received nearly 11,000 votes and 1,600 comments in the past six hours.

The original poster states that he is childless and has a good job. According to the original poster, he recently decided to take his three nephews – two from his sister Lisa and one from his sister Annie – on a 14-day trip to the coast.

But before embarking on the trip, the original poster said he had all three boys take a weekend to gauge what a two-week vacation would be like for the entire group.

“The boys came, and we had a great time at the beginning,” OP wrote. “L [ordered] our pizza, we watched a movie, played football, etc.”

However, after a great first night, the original poster said the next morning would bring nothing but chaos — and a tough decision.

“I woke them up and gave them cereal. The [8-year-old] throws the cornflakes on the floor and says, ‘I have waffles for breakfast,'” wrote OP. “He said he doesn’t like cereal [and] I told him he could just eat some peanut butter toast or some fruit. He yelled at me for not making waffles for him.”

“That day he also cut up my shirt for not letting him eat cookies for lunch, and told me I was bad for telling him to eat his veggies,” OP continued. “He was [a] nightmare.”

“When my sister came to pick them up, I told Annie what had happened and she said ‘oh he’s just excited.’ I told her I’m not taking him on vacation,” OP added. “My parents and some aunts bit me because they treated the kids differently and a boy refused to go to the coast just because he misbehaved once.”

The typical family beach vacation normally involves parents and kids piling up in a fully loaded car while trying to be polite long enough to make sure everyone has at least a semblance of fun.

A holiday with a uncle, aunt or other relative from outside the immediate family may look the same, but with the potential for much more fun.

However, letting go with the fun aunt and uncle or indulgent grandparents who occasionally bend rules requires more diligence and involves even more bureaucracy than traveling with parents.

From birth certificates and passports to pertinent medical information, the parenting website Hello Motherhood recommends that non-parental relatives bring written consent and other documentation proving that children are with relatives who are able to care for them when on vacation — and that is just the paper side of the situation.

When it comes to vacations with family members, the issue of discipline can be difficult for adults and children alike.

Because uncles, aunts, grandparents and other relatives are usually not involved in disciplining children other than their own, there can be hesitation in enforcing certain parenting rules, which can lead to overwhelming chaos and chaos. bad times for all involved

Uncle exhausted by cousin
Members of Reddit’s r/AmITEA**hole stood behind a man explaining why he doesn’t want one of his three nephews to go on vacation with him.
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In his viral Reddit post, the original poster said the idea of ​​a prep weekend with his cousins ​​was to combat the potential for chaos, and that he wanted to make sure that the three guys only got along well under his care. And when it became clear that wasn’t possible, the original poster decided to take the most obvious culprit out of the holiday equation.

In the comments section of the post, Redditors defended that decision, calling out the angry relatives of the original poster for wanting to overlook his cousin’s disruptive behavior.

†[Not the a**hole]Redditor wrote u/toomanydogs3 in the top comment of the post, which has received nearly 12,000 votes. “Your 8-year-old nephew has serious problems that his mother is ignoring.”

“Cut a shirt to pieces because he couldn’t eat cookies for lunch?” they wondered. “That’s very disturbing behavior.”

Redditor u/ForgottenZodiac, whose commentary has garnered nearly 10,000 votes, offered a similar response, applauding the original poster for disallowing a cousin’s actions ruins vacation plans for the others

“You shouldn’t be dealing with a spoiled child if you don’t want to. [Especially] if he’s not yours,” they wrote. “Rewarding the other two nephews for being good and taking them along is sweet and super nice of you.”

In a separate comment, which has received nearly 3,000 votes, Redditor u/teresajs called OP’s sister and put the burden of an extended family vacation on his other relatives who were so concerned about his cousin’s exclusion.

“That’s not ‘once misbehaving,'” they wrote. “Your cousin is spoiled and out of control. At his age, that’s usually a result of bad parenting.’

“If your relatives feel your cousin deserves a vacation, they are more than welcome to bring him along,” she added.

news week contacted u/Tobeadessertman for comment.

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