A mother sought advice from other members of the online forum “Am I being unreasonable” on Mumsnet after her neighbors complained about the noise her children were making while playing outside.
Mumsnet user mrsh1807 shared the mail on June 21 and said her neighbors had told her to send her children to the park down the street. While many readers sympathized with mrsh1807, others wrote that they could see where her neighbors were from.
According to HomegateAs a property search tool, parents are encouraged to consider their neighbors and their needs.
While the piece noted that children have a right to play outside and listen to music, there can be a time when they get too loud.
“If your neighbors’ kids are noisy, it’s a good idea to talk to the family about it,” the piece reads.
Calmly explaining the problem can lead to a solution that works for both parties.
“It’s worth trying to agree on things and decide what can be changed in [the] future,” the piece said.
In her post, mrsh1807 wrote that she received several “unpleasant” text messages from her neighbors telling her to stop her sons from playing in their yard “because they don’t want to hear it”.
“They never raised it as a concern for the messages, and the tone was intimidating,” she wrote.
Mrsh1807 answered the texts and suggested we find a solution so that everyone can enjoy their time outside, but she was told to send her kids to the park.
Many readers asked for clarifications on the noise, saying they might be able to see why her neighbors were frustrated.
“There is a world of difference between playing quietly and making a racket, which they both could do, and one is rude and selfless, especially at an age where they could go to the park,” wrote one commenter.
Another wrote that the sound of a ball bouncing repeatedly can be “annoying.”
“I have a neighbor who shoots netball goals every day and it drives me against the wall,” they wrote. “I won’t say anything because she isn’t doing anything wrong per se, but it’s really bad so I feel for your neighbors.”
One of them suggested that mrsh1807 compromise by letting her sons go to the park for part of the day.
However, others wrote that mrsh1807’s neighbors were unreasonable.
“If they want dead silence on the weekend, they can move to the countryside,” one commenter wrote. “Live next to someone and you hear them in their garden, that’s part of normal life.”
“I don’t think it matters how long they are out or whether they make noise, if you have neighbors you should expect noise,” commented another. “As long as it’s not too early or too late, I’m fine.”
Other posts on Mumsnet invited readers to share their thoughts and advice.
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