The internet has criticized a father after he revealed that he kept a child’s existence a secret from his family and refused to care for her.
In the post shared on the popular AmITEA**hole forum, showing here† reddit user u/crazycake81, now 29, explained that he had a child when he was 19 but didn’t want the child and asked the mother for an abortion.
When she refused, they agreed that he would pay child support and in return not be involved in the girl’s life.
The post struck a chord with many Reddit users and has garnered some 10,100 votes since it was uploaded to the website on Sunday, June 5.
But the user said three months ago that his parents sent him “angry” messages asking if he had a child.
He added: “Apparently my ex had told them everything because she is sick and wants someone to take care of the child as her own family refused to do so.
“They were angry with me and told me it was very selfish to hide their grandchild from them. I am an only child and she is their only grandchild. They agreed to take care of her and brought her into our house. Yes , I live with my parents to help them with expenses.”
The user said he agreed to have his daughter stay with them, but was adamant that he didn’t want to be a father.
In the post, the man explained that his daughter had been living with him for three months and that he had been placed in a position where he would have to take care of her.
His post continued: “Two days ago my parents left her with me to go somewhere. I told them I don’t want to babysit, but no one listened to me.
“As soon as they left, she started coming into my bedroom with various excuses. I eventually got annoyed and told her to go to her room and not come out until her grandparents got home. My parents came back and were shocked when they found out.”
The user later added that both his parents called him an asshole for his behavior and also a “terrible father.”
According to 2019 figures from the Census Bureau, about 7 million men in the US are “absent fathers of all their minor children”. These absent fathers made up about 20.2 percent of all fathers in the U.S.
The study defined “absent” fathers as fathers who seem to have little or nothing to do with parenting.
Many people had very strong opinions about the man’s behavior and many flooded the comments section. Since the post was shared, it has received some 2,201 comments.
One Reddit user said: “YTA (you are the bastard). The child is a 10-year-old, her mother is apparently so sick that she literally has to approach strangers to make sure her child is taken care of.
‘And yet you can’t even be polite for an afternoon. And even if your parents wouldn’t have to leave her alone with you, but have you thought about how the child feels?’
Another added: “YTA. Person to person, don’t you have courtesy? Do you have to be a miserable entity to a 10-year-old kid? What happened to you to be so unkind?”
A third commenter said: “Being polite for a day doesn’t mean you’re a dad. You still can’t be a dad, but help every once in a while because you literally live in your parents’ house. Think of it like babysitting a friend .”
Reddit user u/crazycake81 has since been suspended from Reddit, news week has found.
news week has contacted Reddit.