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Internet criticizes man who wants to spend money from deceased wife on his stepchildren

The internet has convicted a man who tried to use his children to take money from the account late mother-drafted for their future before she died of cancer.

In a after shared on redditthe woman’s sibling, who uses the username Affectionate_Wait385, explained that their sister died 11 years ago, leaving behind two small children, who were only three and four years old at the time.

Before she died, she left them a considerable amount moneybecause she “wanted them to have something real that could be there for them when she couldn’t,” so she set up an account and left her sibling in charge.

The sister’s ex-husband remarried two years after her death and added five new children to the family, and has recently been experiencing financial difficulties.

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When the woman died, she also left her then-husband a letter explaining the money for the children, but it seems he never actually read it.

“He knew nothing about the money until he read the letter my sister left for him informing him of the money’s existence. Ever since he learned of it 18 months ago, he has been determined to keep it in hands,” read the message.

Since he heard about the money, he also tried to use the kids to dive in, without success, accusing his late wife… of being selfish “to keep the money out of his reach so he couldn’t get it.” use it on all his children.”

The post, first shared on the r/AmITeA**hole subreddit on Tuesday, has attracted a lot of attention, reaching 6,572 upvotes and 776 comments in less than 24 hours.

By 2022 figures of Statista, approximately 11.61 percent of women in America are currently widowed and 3.58 percent of men.

All users seemingly sided with the poster and criticized the ex-husband for trying to take his children’s money from them. One user, Felice60 said: “[Not The A**hole]† His children with another woman are not entitled to that money under any theory I can formulate.”

Sorryimbooked12 commented: “What’s worse is why would the deceased wife have left money for his wife-to-be’s children? Biologically, they aren’t his children, so why should another woman’s children have any right to the money from the child?”

Another user, CuriousTsukihime, commented, “I suspect OP’s sister may have seen this coming, which is why she left the handling of the money in her brother’s hands. [Not The A**hole]†

And bellamia0223 added: “You are ABSOLUTELY right!! Something was up and she knew what he would do. She took ALL the steps to make sure it didn’t happen. It’s sad she had to do that in her last time because she already knew what he would do.”

Other users were concerned about the child’s money. AstariaEriol said, “Hopefully it’s in one or two irrevocable trusts.”

And said W noted, “Even if it isn’t, the money isn’t tied to BIL in any way, so he couldn’t touch it. OP is the custodian of what it sounds like, and has control over the money until the kids reach the set age so BIL can stamp his feet and throw all the tantrums he wants but he can’t legally get that money if I read this correctly (NB I do have a law degree but am not a will & trust attorney.)”

Another user, Visible_Attitude_177, pointed out, “No, it’s worse than that. Sister died 11 YEARS ago! He hasn’t read the letter for 11 years!”

Krazzy4u said, “And fuck him for getting your sister’s kids involved in this and trying to bully them into giving up most of ‘their’ money. You are legally obligated to protect that money for its original purpose.”

Phoenix612 added: “[Not The A**hole]† I’m stunned that he thinks her legacy should go to children who aren’t hers.”

And biscuitboi967 wrote: “[Not The A**hole] and I’m so sorry that as she prepared for her death, she knew her husband wouldn’t be responsible for her children’s money and had to take steps to protect it. It was smart and necessary (so thank goodness she took the time while she was able), but how extra distressing it must have been not to trust your spouse to treat the children you left with him right.

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