The internet is torn apart after a woman asked the Mumsnet community whether or not she was “toxic” for telling her sister to start doing things to feel better.
In a after shared on Tuesday, HacketteofHacks, explained that her younger sister has always had a different lifestyle from hers, and now that they are in their early fifties, she is struggling financially.
the younger one sister also suffers from a condition called “fatty liver,” which just adds more worry to the mix.
The post, which has received more than 104 responses in less than 24 hours, read: “I get a WhatsApp from my sister saying she’s fed up [with] worry about money and her health.
“I say ‘oh for God’s sake, you always come back to this.’ I tell her, ‘Choose one thing and try to do something today that will make you feel better.'”
She then explains that her sister started messaging her back, calling her “toxic” and “bad” and saying she didn’t support her.
“My mother then intervened and told me that I am also judgmental and toxic,” HacketteofHacks wrote.
According to the American Liver Foundation, nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (NAFLD) is the accumulation of extra fat in liver cells that is not caused by alcohol.
It is normal for the liver to have some fat, but if it becomes more than 5 to 10 percent of the weight of the liver, it is called a fatty liver, also known as steatosis.
The National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases says NAFLD is usually a silent disease with few or no symptoms. Some health conditions, such as obesity, metabolic syndrome, and type 2 diabetes, make you more likely to develop the disease.
HacketteofHacks, who even considered taking out a loan to help her sister climb the real estate ladder, disagreed that her sister called her bad, but asked the community if that was the case.
Most people thought the poster was right to point her sister in the right direction, while others thought her whole family was a nightmare.
SleeplessInEngland commented, “Your sister and mother both sound like fucking nightmares.” And Doorsdoyle said, “What does she expect you to do about her weight problem? Stop being so busy and just make soothing noises when she moans. She’s acting ridiculous.”
Another user, 11Hawkins, suggested, “Whatever you do, DO NOT GET A LOAN FOR HER. You will never get it back.”
And steviewiththecankles said: “It doesn’t sound like she wants your honest opinion but just wants someone to listen. If you don’t want conflict then calm down as suggested. I wouldn’t take a loan for her either unless you can have a much better relationship, money make things much worse.”
While other users thought maybe she was too loud. Tandora said, “Your message was useless and unkind, of course it upset her.”
And CosmopolitanPlease added: “Apart from everything else you mentioned, your sister moaned and wanted to listen and let off steam. You gave her annoyance and advice. Unsolicited advice and suggestions can be very annoying and condescending. Just next time.” say ‘that must be hard’ or ‘sorry to hear you’re having a hard time.’”
VodselForDinner added: “She sounds needy. You sound judgmental. You sound like teen bickering, not grown women in their 50s.”
Another user, MzHz, commented: “It wasn’t useless or unfriendly, it just wasn’t one of the there, there, platitudes the sister wanted to hear. She’s her own worst enemy and didn’t like being pointed out.” .”