The internet is torn over a woman who brings eggs to her brother’s vegan wedding in a new viral post.
In a message submitted to reddit‘s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/landofsunshine1 shared her story to the “AITA” community to see if she was wrong. The popular post has more than 7,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments.
The Reddit user started her story by explaining that her brother got married last weekend. He and his new wife decided to make an eco-friendly wedding and have 100 percent vegan food because they are both vegan. The original poster (OP) thought their idea was a good one.
However, the OP explained that she has severe allergies to peanuts, soy and sesame, as well as a mild allergy to shellfish. Due to cross-contamination from the severe allergies she has ended up in the hospital in the past so she is careful with it.
“I talked to my brother about whether there would be something safe for me to eat at the event, but because they use a local women’s shop as a catering service rather than something professional, I didn’t feel comfortable enough that there was absolutely zero chance of that happening.” I get a reaction, especially since the allergens were ingredients in many of the dishes,” she wrote.
“It felt too risky so I said I would bring my own food and he agreed that was the best option. I’ve done this with a lot of events like this in the past and it’s never been a problem,” she continued.
When it was time to food at the weddingthe OP took her meal — which contained a large salad and two eggs on top — and started eating when she noticed the bride staring at her “horribly.”
When everyone had finished eating, the bride pulled her aside and told the OP she screwed up the bridal meal, appetite and wedding. The bride also called her a selfish person because she “couldn’t even have a meal without animal secretions at a vegan wedding” and that it was very disrespectful.
“In my eyes I bought my own food because they couldn’t give me something that was safe to eat, and it’s not like I brought a steak. I had 2 eggs in a big salad and she has to stare specifically at my food to even realize they were there,” the OP argued.
Her brother also thinks the OP should have brought something else to eat.
news week contacted u/landofsunshine1 for comment.
Are you in a similar situation where you need to consider wedding guests with allergies? Ask about potential allergens on the RSVP card per MarthaStewart.com, speak to your caterer to plan, label your food if you have a buffet, be honest and transparent about what’s in each meal, and eat allergen-free snacks during cocktail hour.
When someone says they are vegan, it means they don’t eat food that comes from animals or other animal products, including milk, eggs, or honey. According to Healthline, some of the foods vegans eat are fruits, vegetables, beans, peas, whole grains, nuts, seeds and other plant foods. As of January 2021, approximately 79 million people are vegan.
The Reddit community was quick to share their thoughts and opinions.
†[Not the a**hole]† Although I understand she has dietary restrictions and it’s her day now… You have unavoidable dietary restrictions, in that you are severely allergic to some foods, some of which were listed in the ingredients. You talked it out and got permission to bring your own food. You’ve done your due diligence. From then on, it’s your brother’s responsibility to tell his new wife what’s going on,” u/SaifurCloudstrefe received the main comment with over 12,000 votes.
U/Hellsbellsbeans wrote: “Sorry, the focus of her wedding was veganism? Not that she’s committed to the person she loves? She’s an A** for that comment alone. But you’re [Not the A**hole]if they weren’t able to take care of you, they have no right to take offense at what you’ve made yourself.”
†[You’re the A**hole]† They obviously wanted their wedding to be vegan, couldn’t you just put no eggs on your salad? It doesn’t seem to have been that hard to get yourself a vegan meal,” argued u/Thistime232.
U/HistoryOfViolets_ commented: “Unpopular but [You’re the A**hole]† Really easy to take away something vegan. It should have been obvious that a loud vegan wedding wouldn’t want animal products and it would have been a courteous and sensitive thing to do.”
“It’s kind of like bringing a steak to a vegetarian’s home. They’re just things you don’t do out of decency. If you really wanted to bring animal products to a vegan wedding, you should have checked in with the couple first to make sure. her reaction way over the top so it’s obvious [Everyone Sucks Here] for me,” said u/SaikaTheCasual.